Six tips to raise a good Muslim boy
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Instill Love of Allah and the Prophet ﷺ in their hearts
Share beautiful stories from the Quran with them.
Dedicate a time daily for teaching them about the life of the Prophet ﷺ
Take the time to explain the meaning of some verses to them
❞❝[This is] a blessed Book which We have revealed to you, [O Muhammad], that they might reflect upon its verses and that those of understanding would be reminded.”❞❝
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Show them affection
One of the biggest misconceptions about raising boys is teaching them to ignore their feelings and always using tough love with them.
Just like girls, boys have emotions too and we should not make them ashamed of them.
The young brother of Anas bin Malik used to play with a small bird. The Prophet ﷺwould approach the little kid and ask: ❞❝“O Abu Umair! What has your little bird done today?”❞❝
One day the little bird died. The boy was sad, so the Prophet of Mercy went to visit him, console him and cheer him up.
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Be fair and honest
Fairness is important to boys. They respond best to discipline that is firm, honest and fair.
The mother of Abdullah Ibn ‘Amr once called him to come near to her, promising that she will give him something in return.
The Prophet ﷺ commented by saying ❝If you did not give him anything (upon calling him) it would be recorded on you as a lie.❞
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Get dads involved
Boys need male role models. They need a father who leads by example and gently but firmly encourages them.
`Umar was walking with his son `Abdullah, he informed his father that he knew the answer to the question the Prophet put forward to them.
Upon hearing his son’s answer Umar said to him: ❝If you had said it, it would have been sweeter to me than anything in this world❞.
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Accept their childishness
Many parents dislike the messiness that comes along with raising boys. It is important to accept that and not be a disciplining parent all the time.
❝When al-Hassan & al-Hussain were little, they would jump on the prophets back while he was praying, and when he rose from prostration he would gently place them on the floor.❞
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Give them responsibilities around the house
Following directions and finishing tasks are very important skills to learn. Assign your son a regular task daily.
❝The Prophet ﷺ used to keep himself busy serving his family and when it was the time for prayer he would go for it.❞
May Allah make our children from amongst the righteous.