{"id":5861,"date":"2015-08-26T08:04:56","date_gmt":"2015-08-26T08:04:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/onepathnetwork.com\/?p=5861"},"modified":"2021-04-15T04:42:09","modified_gmt":"2021-04-15T04:42:09","slug":"how-do-i-choose-the-perfect-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/onepathnetwork.com\/au\/living-muslim\/how-do-i-choose-the-perfect-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"How do I choose the perfect partner?"},"content":{"rendered":"<\/amp-jwplayer>

Islamic Marriage Advice with Sheikh Bilal Dannoun<\/h1>\nAs Sheikh Bilal Dannoun puts it, \u201cMarriage is about two imperfect people that never give up on each other.\u201d\n
The Prophet said, \u201cA woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.\u201d <\/i>\n\nSahih Al-Hurairah\u00a0<\/i><\/blockquote>\nThese are the things that a man should look for when looking to get married, and it encourages people to do their homework, in order to have a healthy and happy marriage. Look for a triple M, Muslim Marriage Material, referring to the above hadith.\n\nUnfortunately 50% of marriages end in divorce according to a recent study done by American Psychological Association (APA). It is important to find someone who is your number 1 fan and makes you feel good about yourself. \u00a0<\/i>\n\nWhen looking for a partner you need to have reasonable standards, you should know what you want, make a list and look for something that is important to you, you want someone that interests you.\n\nEngagements occurs once the man is ready to marry, asks for the women\u2019s hand and there has been an acceptance on both the women and families part. During this period, no other suitors can come and ask for her hand. There is no religious obligations in an engagement, it is a formal but an informal agreement. This engagement period allows you to get to know that person and can last for however long it takes to: get to know that person, ensure financial stability etc. There is no time limit, but it shouldn\u2019t be prolonged.\n\n
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How do I Choose the Perfect Partner?<\/strong><\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\nFor women, there is a stigma associated with calling off an engagement, or Katb al-Kitab (KK). If she is unhappy in her situation and there is \u201cno spark\u201d, she should look for the best outcome, and it would be in her best interest to go to her father for advice.\n\nCompatibility is something the scholars of Islam have spoken about, which you will find when you find out what you both want in your marriage.\n\nAfter the engagement period, a KK is conducted which is formerly known as the Nikkah, and it is the contract itself that both people sign. This Islamically means that you are married, however there can be conditions. During the KK, there needs to be representation for the women (usually her father). If he is unavailable, her uncle or a mahram can fulfill this role, and this person is known as a ‘Wali’. There must be two male witnesses and a dowry written into the contract.\n\nOnce the KK has been signed, the couple can now be alone and there is no need for mahram. Some couples move out after the KK, while others take a while to move out. There is usually a ceremony after the KK, known as the walimah, which is sunnah. Some scholars state that it is an obligation.\n
It was narrated that Anas said, \u201cThe Messenger of Allah saw traces of yellow perfume on \u2018Abdur-Rahman and said, \u2018What is this?\u2019 He said, \u2018I married a woman for a Nawah (five Dirhams) of \u00a0gold.\u2019 He said, \u2018May Allah bless you. Give a Walimah (wedding feast) even if it is with one sheep.\u2019\u201d <\/i><\/blockquote>\n
Sunan Al-Nisa`i<\/blockquote>\nAccording to Islamic Shariah there are requirements to get married,\n
\u201cAnd let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His Bounty.\u201d <\/i>\n\nQuran 24:33<\/blockquote>\nTalk to your local Sheikh or Imam to find out the specific requirements so that you are pleasing Allah when looking to get married.","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Islamic Marriage Advice with Sheikh Bilal Dannoun As Sheikh Bilal Dannoun puts it, \u201cMarriage is about two imperfect people that never give up on each other.\u201d The Prophet said, \u201cA woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":5862,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"video","meta":{"googlesitekit_rrm_CAow4-bBDA:productID":"","content-type":"","newspack_ads_suppress_ads":false,"episode_type":"","audio_file":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","filesize_raw":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"apple_news_api_created_at":"","apple_news_api_id":"","apple_news_api_modified_at":"","apple_news_api_revision":"","apple_news_api_share_url":"","apple_news_cover_media_provider":"image","apple_news_coverimage":0,"apple_news_coverimage_caption":"","apple_news_cover_video_id":0,"apple_news_cover_video_url":"","apple_news_cover_embedwebvideo_url":"","apple_news_is_hidden":"","apple_news_is_paid":"","apple_news_is_preview":"","apple_news_is_sponsored":"","apple_news_maturity_rating":"","apple_news_metadata":"\"\"","apple_news_pullquote":"","apple_news_pullquote_position":"middle","apple_news_slug":"","apple_news_sections":[],"apple_news_suppress_video_url":false,"apple_news_use_image_component":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"newspack_featured_image_position":"","newspack_post_subtitle":"","newspack_hide_updated_date":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[75],"tags":[77],"series":[],"speaker":[],"coauthors":[],"class_list":["post-5861","post","type-post","status-publish","format-video","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-living-muslim","tag-latest","post_format-post-format-video","entry"],"acf":[],"apple_news_notices":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/onepathnetwork.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/4338955586001_4444631694001_4444544684001-vs.jpg","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/onepathnetwork.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Mums-on-the-RunV3.jpg?fit=2160%2C2160&ssl=1","download_link":"","player_link":"","audio_player":false,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"dark","subscribeUrls":[],"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/onepathnetwork.com\/au\/feed\/podcast\/mums-on-the-run","embedCode":"

How do I choose the perfect partner?<\/a><\/blockquote>