{"id":16169,"date":"2020-09-14T17:08:38","date_gmt":"2020-09-14T17:08:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/onepathnetwork.com\/?p=16169"},"modified":"2021-07-15T13:07:29","modified_gmt":"2021-07-15T13:07:29","slug":"whispers-please-stay-silent","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/onepathnetwork.com\/au\/society\/whispers-please-stay-silent\/","title":{"rendered":"Whispers \u201cPlease Stay Silent\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<\/amp-jwplayer>

Whispers Part 3: Backbiting<\/h1>\nThe appetite for backbiting is a disease of the heart and it is necessary to treat it. Backbiting, otherwise translated in Arabic as Gheeba, may seem trivial in action but is a cause of many believers to enter Jahannam. It is of grave importance for Muslims to understand what Gheeba is and how to avoid falling into this grievous sin.\n

What is backbiting?<\/h2>\nBackbiting is to say (something) about someone in their absence which, should he hear it, would displease him\/her, even if what has been said is true. Here are 5 Tips to help you quit Backbiting<\/a>\n

What is slander?<\/h2>\nSlandering is to say (something) about someone in their absence which, should he hear it, would displease him\/her. The difference between backbiting and slandering is that the slanderer\u2019s claims are untrue.\n
The Messenger of Allah \ufdfa said, “Do you know what is backbiting?” The Companions said: “Allah and His Messenger know better.” Thereupon he \ufdfa said, “Backbiting is talking about your (Muslim) brother in a manner which he dislikes.” It was said to him: “What if my (Muslim) brother is as I say.” He said, “If he is actually as you say, then that is backbiting; but if that is not in him, that is slandering.”\n\n(Sahih Muslim)<\/blockquote>\nHere are 3 steps to stop slander from affecting you<\/a>\n

Backbiting with the Eye, Hand or Gesture<\/h2>\nBackbiting is not just that which is uttered by the tongue; indeed also by the eye, a gesture, the hand, or in writing – are all forbidden.\n\nAishah, may God be pleased with her, says \u2018I pointed to a short woman with my hand. The Messenger \ufdfa said \u2018You have backbit her\u2019.\n

Listening to Backbiting<\/h2>\nIn the same manner as backbiting is prohibited, so is listening to it. Indeed, as some traditions indicate, the listener is like the backbiter in all the evil aspects, so much so that their act is a grave sin carrying an obligation to seek forgiveness from the victim.\n\nOne day Abu Bakr and Umar, may God be pleased with them both, were walking together. One said to the other \u2018So and so sleeps alot.\u2019 Then they sought stew from the Messenger \ufdfa. He \ufdfa said \u2018You have eaten the stew\u2019. They both replied \u2018We do not know what we ate\u2019. He \ufdfa said \u2018You both have eaten the flesh of one of your brethren\u2019. He included in this; one had spoken and the other had listened.\n

When is backbiting permitted?<\/h2>\nBackbiting is forbidden and does not become permitted except when compelled by necessity. There are six excuses:\n
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  1. The first excuse is when complaining of injustice before a ruler or judge. This is lawful, as it is when seeking someone\u2019s help. However, it is not permitted for the oppressed person to tell someone from whom there can be no help about the injustice of the oppressor.<\/li>\n \t
  2. The second excuse is that if one sees some corruption takes place, he informs someone able to enforce morality and stop it.<\/li>\n \t
  3. The third excuse is to request a religious decree, as when one says \u2018My wife, husband, father etc does this to me\u2019. Though it is better to say \u2018What do you say if someone does this?\u2019<\/li>\n \t
  4. The fourth excuse is to warn others of someone\u2019s evil, such as when a person is a thief and people may place their confidence in that person. This also includes someone seeking a spouse in marriage, the informant knows that if he\/she does not disclose the person\u2019s defect, someone may be harmed.<\/li>\n \t
  5. The fifth excuse is that a person is well known by some epithet (relating to a physical defect) and become well known by that name and does not take offence. However, it is preferred that they be addressed by a more honourable name.<\/li>\n \t
  6. The sixth excuse is that the debauchery is open such as those unashamed of their heedlessness. Mentioning them is lawful.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Punishment of Backbiting<\/h2>\n
    Anas, May Allah be pleased with him said: The Messenger of Allah \ufdfa said, \u2018During the Mi`raj (the Night of Ascension), I saw a group of people who were scratching their chests and faces with their copper nails. I asked, `Who are these people, O Jibril \u0639\u064e\u0644\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0647\u0650 \u0671\u0644\u0633\u064e\u0651\u0644\u064e\u0627\u0645\u064f?\u2019 Jibril \u0639\u064e\u0644\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0647\u0650 \u0671\u0644\u0633\u064e\u0651\u0644\u064e\u0627\u0645\u064f replied: `These are the people who ate the flesh of others (by backbiting) and trampled people\u2019s honour.\u2019\n\n(Abu Dawud)<\/blockquote>\nSo when you\u2019re in your next social gathering be reminded by the wise words of the Messenger of Allah \ufdfa \u201cWhoever believes in Allah and the last day, let him speak good or keep silent\u201d. (Sahih)\n\n ","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Whispers Part 3: Backbiting The appetite for backbiting is a disease of the heart and it is necessary to treat it. Backbiting, otherwise translated in Arabic as Gheeba, may seem trivial in action but is a cause of many believers to enter Jahannam. It is of grave importance for Muslims to understand what Gheeba is […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":16175,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"video","meta":{"googlesitekit_rrm_CAow4-bBDA:productID":"","content-type":"","newspack_ads_suppress_ads":false,"episode_type":"audio","audio_file":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","filesize_raw":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"apple_news_api_created_at":"","apple_news_api_id":"","apple_news_api_modified_at":"","apple_news_api_revision":"","apple_news_api_share_url":"","apple_news_cover_media_provider":"image","apple_news_coverimage":0,"apple_news_coverimage_caption":"","apple_news_cover_video_id":0,"apple_news_cover_video_url":"","apple_news_cover_embedwebvideo_url":"","apple_news_is_hidden":"","apple_news_is_paid":"","apple_news_is_preview":"","apple_news_is_sponsored":"","apple_news_maturity_rating":"","apple_news_metadata":"\"\"","apple_news_pullquote":"","apple_news_pullquote_position":"middle","apple_news_slug":"","apple_news_sections":[],"apple_news_suppress_video_url":false,"apple_news_use_image_component":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"newspack_featured_image_position":"","newspack_post_subtitle":"","newspack_hide_updated_date":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[137],"tags":[],"series":[],"speaker":[],"coauthors":[134],"class_list":["post-16169","post","type-post","status-publish","format-video","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-society","post_format-post-format-video","entry"],"acf":[],"apple_news_notices":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/onepathnetwork.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/Web_Thumbnail-3-2.jpg","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/onepathnetwork.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Mums-on-the-RunV3.jpg?fit=2160%2C2160&ssl=1","download_link":"","player_link":"","audio_player":false,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"dark","subscribeUrls":[],"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/onepathnetwork.com\/au\/feed\/podcast\/mums-on-the-run","embedCode":"

    Whispers \u201cPlease Stay Silent\u201d<\/a><\/blockquote>